{"topic":{"id":8690,"title":"寻求人际关系处理的解决之道😷","slug":"topic","userId":221,"categoryId":4,"createdAt":"2023-12-27 15:00:47.29318","bumpedAt":"2023-12-28 11:53:20.774068","views":384,"postsCount":14,"highestPostNumber":14,"likeCount":3,"closed":false,"pinned":false,"pinnedGlobally":false,"pinnedAt":null,"pinnedUntil":null,"isBanner":false,"excerpt":"交了新朋友，然后玩了一段时间发现不太合适。但又有情感羁绊，碍于沉没成本和情面所以就这样维持着，但导致总是心里憋闷。纠结点在于，本质上双方没什么原则性错误，只是朋友是一个本质比较冷漠的人，然后 lz 很热情，所以就很多时候有点像 lz 在舔一样。可是玩的时候又很开心，很能玩到一起去。然后有时候 lz 生气了，朋友又会道歉，但不改🌝。发帖目的在于，看看大家交朋友的原则。lz 是和谁都能做朋友，然后很热情那种人。然后就慢慢发现这样很容易…","deletedAt":null,"isAnonymous":false,"isPrivate":false,"isMembersOnly":false,"category":{"id":4,"name":"谈笑风生","slug":"general","color":"25AAE2"},"author":{"id":221,"username":"paipai","name":null,"avatarUrl":"/uploads/image/6b/2c/6b2c14c21e9e79f8782c7549539db1061e36e3ad584b39b5e7b202ef26ecfc9d.avif"},"realAuthor":{"id":221,"username":"paipai","name":null,"avatarUrl":"/uploads/image/6b/2c/6b2c14c21e9e79f8782c7549539db1061e36e3ad584b39b5e7b202ef26ecfc9d.avif"},"tags":[]},"posts":[{"id":20621,"postNumber":1,"raw":"交了新朋友，然后玩了一段时间发现不太合适。但又有情感羁绊，碍于沉没成本和情面所以就这样维持着，但导致总是心里憋闷。\n纠结点在于，本质上双方没什么原则性错误，只是朋友是一个本质比较冷漠的人，然后 lz 很热情，所以就很多时候有点像 lz 在舔一样。可是玩的时候又很开心，很能玩到一起去。然后有时候 lz 生气了，朋友又会道歉，但不改🌝。\n发帖目的在于，看看大家交朋友的原则。lz 是和谁都能做朋友，然后很热情那种人。然后就慢慢发现这样很容易被消耗，但又改不掉这种习惯🌚。","cooked":"

交了新朋友，然后玩了一段时间发现不太合适。但又有情感羁绊，碍于沉没成本和情面所以就这样维持着，但导致总是心里憋闷。
\n纠结点在于，本质上双方没什么原则性错误，只是朋友是一个本质比较冷漠的人，然后 lz 很热情，所以就很多时候有点像 lz 在舔一样。可是玩的时候又很开心，很能玩到一起去。然后有时候 lz 生气了，朋友又会道歉，但不改🌝。
\n发帖目的在于，看看大家交朋友的原则。lz 是和谁都能做朋友，然后很热情那种人。然后就慢慢发现这样很容易被消耗，但又改不掉这种习惯🌚。

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人际关系讲究对等，除非你是 M。选择的人群不对，找找同样热情的人，黄人不行就找白人

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如果你热情就希望别人也热情，那你只能找热情的人了。或者可以改变一下，不管别人怎么对你，你保持热情就行了。

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把自己太当回事了，三年后人家压根就不认识过你

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他人即地狱

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好的，这确实是我没有做好的一个点，最近在改正

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热情是我的一种本来的性格，很难改，不过我在试图遏制一下，毕竟不一定刚好能遇见合适的朋友

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是的，也有道理，不过我还是想尽量处理好关系，我是喜欢有很多朋友的感觉

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you can talk your friend about this problem if it is truly a friend.

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说了，没改，所以我打算放弃了

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Oh, that's friend without benefits

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不过还是很难过的，因为我对朋友都很认真（吸取教训吧只能说）

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把自己太当回事了

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互相给不了正面的精神反馈就降低交流频次咯——
\n只在发现对方感兴趣之物的时候投喂一下也是一种不错的关系（）

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无所谓，热带风味 🙅‍♀️

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