{"topic":{"id":9145,"title":"过度脑内模拟社交造成的困惑","slug":"topic","userId":151,"categoryId":4,"createdAt":"2024-01-18 10:32:12.802956","bumpedAt":"2024-01-18 15:30:44.866323","views":387,"postsCount":12,"highestPostNumber":12,"likeCount":3,"closed":false,"pinned":false,"pinnedGlobally":false,"pinnedAt":null,"pinnedUntil":null,"isBanner":false,"excerpt":"曾经看过一个 meme，大意是“社恐认为，所有人在做出社交行动之前都会脑内预演一次。当他得知有人不会预演时，他感到震惊。” 这个 meme 在我身上一点都不夸张，因为我不但在社交之前会多次模拟对方的多种反应并做出预案，在许多初次尝试的事情上也做了类似的预案。现在问题开始出现。在最近的一些事件中，我的朋友建议我“做出符合自己内心的决定”。不幸的是，我发现我已经被预案绑架了。我的大脑自动开始生成“对所有人都好”的预案。而我搜肠刮肚寻找“…","deletedAt":null,"isAnonymous":false,"isPrivate":false,"isMembersOnly":false,"category":{"id":4,"name":"谈笑风生","slug":"general","color":"25AAE2"},"author":{"id":151,"username":"Rin","name":"Tomotake Rin","avatarUrl":"/uploads/image/dd/40/dd40df04070180d25dc835b8f1ad472ded596141699d602ec04ff13e27375bd9.avif"},"realAuthor":{"id":151,"username":"Rin","name":"Tomotake Rin","avatarUrl":"/uploads/image/dd/40/dd40df04070180d25dc835b8f1ad472ded596141699d602ec04ff13e27375bd9.avif"},"tags":[]},"posts":[{"id":22111,"postNumber":1,"raw":"曾经看过一个 meme，大意是“社恐认为，所有人在做出社交行动之前都会脑内预演一次。当他得知有人不会预演时，他感到震惊。”\n这个 meme 在我身上一点都不夸张，因为我不但在社交之前会多次模拟对方的多种反应并做出预案，在许多初次尝试的事情上也做了类似的预案。\n\n现在问题开始出现。在最近的一些事件中，我的朋友建议我“**做出符合自己内心的决定**”。不幸的是，我发现我已经被预案绑架了。\n我的大脑自动开始生成“**对所有人都好**”的预案。而我搜肠刮肚寻找“**符合我心意的想法**”，却没有任何念头回应我。我似乎只能机械的参考他人的经验和朋友的提议，以及“不伤害任何人”的准则，而我的主见似乎消失了。\n\n我发帖的目的有两个：\n1，我想知道在各位坛友的生活中有没有这样的“预案”存在\n2，如果有办法可以察觉或者重激活自己的内心想法，再好不过\n![Left Behind_109951168743584023|500x500](/uploads/image/ad/dd/adddaae23d237f9de6173a14c775abb2f2a205e83981b3836179581b82c94e97.avif)","cooked":"

曾经看过一个 meme，大意是“社恐认为，所有人在做出社交行动之前都会脑内预演一次。当他得知有人不会预演时，他感到震惊。”
\n这个 meme 在我身上一点都不夸张，因为我不但在社交之前会多次模拟对方的多种反应并做出预案，在许多初次尝试的事情上也做了类似的预案。

现在问题开始出现。在最近的一些事件中，我的朋友建议我“做出符合自己内心的决定”。不幸的是，我发现我已经被预案绑架了。
\n我的大脑自动开始生成“对所有人都好”的预案。而我搜肠刮肚寻找“符合我心意的想法”，却没有任何念头回应我。我似乎只能机械的参考他人的经验和朋友的提议，以及“不伤害任何人”的准则，而我的主见似乎消失了。

我发帖的目的有两个：
\n1，我想知道在各位坛友的生活中有没有这样的“预案”存在
\n2，如果有办法可以察觉或者重激活自己的内心想法，再好不过
\n $\"Left$

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无所谓，热带风味 🙅‍♀️

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作为社恐，还真是这样 🤯 行动之前至少想出来三句要说的话

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年月擦身过，暂且问，会更好吗？

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我的大脑自动开始生成“对所有人都好”的预案
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这也是自己大脑所想到的预案，某种意义上也算做出符合自己内心的决定吧
\n人很难搞清自己究竟想要什么，只能说所有的想法都是「存在即合理」，如果真的没办法搞清，就顺应自己最强烈的想法吧

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Dear Eternity

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我不清楚这个念头是来自哪里，对我来说存在可能类似于机器人三定律了 $\":shuiyuan3:\"$

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无所谓，热带风味 🙅‍♀️

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我也习惯“起草预案”。否则我不知道该讲什么了。但是总有预料不到的对方反应，这时可以逼自己把立刻的想法表示出来。做久了能有（脑内）肌肉反射了吧。🤣

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我想知道在各位坛友的生活中有没有这样的“预案”存在
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没有，全都预演太累了，比如你还得进行不确定性评估

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如果有办法可以察觉或者重激活自己的内心想法，再好不过
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找我社交试试

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你觉得你的行动很不可预测是吗（（
\n可以啊，as the self-introduction said，欢迎和我交朋友

\n","createdAt":"2024-01-18 15:12:44.570626","updatedAt":"2024-01-18 15:12:44.570626","replyToPostNumber":6,"replyCount":1,"likeCount":0,"wordCount":29,"liked":false,"bookmarked":false,"polls":[],"reactions":[],"wiki":false,"version":1,"publicVersion":1,"deletedAt":null,"isAnonymous":false,"user":{"id":151,"username":"Rin","name":"Tomotake Rin","avatarUrl":"/uploads/image/dd/40/dd40df04070180d25dc835b8f1ad472ded596141699d602ec04ff13e27375bd9.avif","admin":false,"moderator":false,"signatureRaw":"无所谓，热带风味 :woman_gesturing_no:","signatureCooked":"

无所谓，热带风味 🙅‍♀️

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我会，但是我感觉我不社恐，我模拟一下是为了交流的时候能讲讲笑话

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确实，幽默似乎需要点沉淀

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无所谓，热带风味 🙅‍♀️

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就是讲你得预测你做出某个行为之后对方的行为以及造成的后果有个概率分布，针对这个又要进行一步决策，如此迭代

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非常好第三方视角
\n大脑要升级了

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无所谓，热带风味 🙅‍♀️

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大脑🧠...要变得奇怪起来了 😖

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年月擦身过，暂且问，会更好吗？

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